i’m responsibility an ethics project for our finals. so we did a skit and said some situations to our classmates and got the results of what they thought. so we were place into groups and my group got the tale of this woman with her husband. one of her friends facility in a flower shop. her other best friend has had a crush on her husband since high school. so shortly on, even as the wifes friend is working at the flower shop, she sees some flowers that she’s going to deliver, but it’s for the other friend that’s had a crush on the husband, and it says that he likes her and stuff. then she finds out that they’re having an affair an’ all. the friend in the flower shop doesn’t know what to do, whether to tell the wife, or to keep it a secret.
SO! the queston. would u tell the wife that’s being cheated on? or keep it a secret?
Oct
23
Rose M questioned:
well my insinct is to to say no its none of my buisness
YES! u would be a horrible self not to.. come on
I would mind my business unless it directly unnatural me.
no but I’d set it up so she’d find out “on her own”
Well, i would tell the guy to tell his wife himself and if he didn’t after maybe a week then tell him again, and if he refused or said he was going to but you knew he wouldnt then i’d tell the wife myself.
Sorry, the power of sisterhood is stronger than any man that comes between us. I would tell my friend (the wife) because it’s not cool of our mutual friend to mess with one of our husbands! Never in a million years is that acceptable!
I would tell the wife she’s being cheated on. It’s just morally incorrect to let it go on without the wife knowing. It could really ruin their marriage if it’s left to long. Plus the wife has a right to know because it’s her husband AND her best friend.
I would just mind my own business because its not my problem or marriage.
I dont place my nose into other peoples lives.
If your husband were cheating, would you want to know?
I would want to know. And I would tell.
Never know when his infidelity could give her AIDS and comproise her ability to be there for her children.
If the friend finds out you knew and didn’t tell her you will lose your friend. Keeping secrets can be tough. I would tell.
No absolutely not. I did this once thinking the friend would be grateful. She never spar to me again. I still miss her friendship,and it’s been years
It would be a hard situation to be place in. I would probably tell because if she finds out shortly and then that you knew it could place a damper on your friendship.
I’d tell! I dont like to be a busybody but someone could really get hurt or a disease.
YES! YES! it’s going to be hard that’s for sure but what if it was you? You wouldn’t want to go on thinking your husband rele loved you when he was cheating with your best friend would you.
I have an answer from personal experience and it relates to your question, I said something to my girlfriend’s friend that she misunderstood,and she was quick to tell on me,like a day shortly. Now she still is my girlfriend’s friend,but not mine anymore. I’d say some friends would tell the other self what’s going on, would I? Don’t know.
Im sorry u would take the risk to lose one of your friends, but u have to tell this self she is being cheated on. You would be a BAD friend if you dont, better to lose a cheating friend, than a excellent one. or u want to lose the cheated one because u didnt tell her, and keep the cheater one? I dont reckon so..
I would let her know exactly whats going on behind her back and if I could provide waterproof I would give it to her. Why let somebody stay in a situation that is unhealthy even if they don’t know its unhealthy. At least she would have the truth and a chance to make a choice about her future.
Here’s the appealing about this situation…If you tell her, this could potentially place you in the position of being the self that puts his/her nose where it doesn’t belong. On the other hand, if you don’t…you will be perceived as a poor friend. Unfortunately, there is not a pleased medium between the two. The reason for this is that people feel differently about privacy in relationships…as is evident from some of these answers. The truth is, YOU would have to choose based on what outcome facility out best for you. I know this sounds somewhat selfish, but ultimately you are putting your name on the line to betray the confidence of one self in that relationship. If you reckon that your relationship with the self who is being cheated on is more vital, then tell her. If you reckon that relationships are a learning process that involves painful situations at times, then I would keep my mouth shut. For me in person, I wouldn’t say anything. Granted, when you are the self being cheated on you want to know that information. But when you consider the implications that come with getting involved in something so emotional, I can know why someone would stay out of this scenario all together. Being cheated on myself twice and being told once and not told the second time…I would keep this information to myself, only presenting it IF SHE ASKS based on her own suspicion. That way you are not lying if she procures an answer from you. Because of the potential disastrous effect that cheating has on relationships (including friendships), there is too much to lose by you playing a role in that relationship. In fact…as a friend your relationship is separated from her’s with other people. You’d still be friends with someone she didn’t like and vice versa? So why treat this situation any differently? What goes on in a private relationship, stays private. The only thing you are obligated to do as a friend is to be there for support. You are not responsible for keeping her safe from all the emotional harm that life can dish out. I look at it this way…unless one of my friends are going to be physically hurt or have their lives completely ruined (and I don’t mean her choosing to ruin the rest of her life b/c she got cheated on) by another individual, it’s not my role to be involved. Yes, they will get hurt but they can and will continue their life (albeit changed) as long as they have the fight in them. Pain is as much a part of life as happiness is…that is reality.
I would stay out of it. I reckon they will find out. So just let it be cause
i would not want to hurt my friend in anyway.
Yes, I would say something. I have done this in the past . A friend of mine wife was cheating on him. He didn’t want to judge it, so he followed her himself and found out. He was glad I told him.
If they were people I didn’t know well, then no. But if they are friends, absolutely. How would you feel if you found out your friend knew the whole time and said nothing? By not saying anything you are not being neutral, you are siding with and protecting the cheater and the mistress.
stay out of it.
Mind your own business. No excellent deed goes unpunished, and the self tattling will usually end up with egg on their face, no matter how excellent their intentions.
Yeah certainly because she’s my friend too and I cant see another friend of mine ruin her marriage .
This is a tough one. My natural instinct is to mind my own business. If I was very, very close friends with the wife, I guess I’d feel bound to tell. It would very likely be the end of the friendship.
On the other hand, I could remain silent and when the wife finds out, pretend I didn’t know anything about it, but I’d always be worrying that somehow she would find out that I knew.
Or maybe I could spend some time with the wife and find out if she already knows/suspects, and then tell her what I know, if she questions for help.
Any way you slice it, it is a hard one.
Oh, one other thing, I could take the husband out and spurt him. Some men need killing. [Just kidding.]
The answer is harder then it sounds, I reckon. I the “friend” should ALWAYS tell her girlfriend her man is cheating, but in this case she learned at work, in the clock, I wonder is there anything the worker signed stating she would not give out costumer info? Did anyone hear about the man who sent flowers to his mistress and it was accidentally sent to his wife! She found out what he was up to! He shortly SUED the flower shop.
I reckon you should let you “friend” but in a different way maybe.
I would tell my friend.
I would want her to tell me if she knew my husband was cheating on me.
M